There's a small percentage of men who get most of the success with women. We all know somebody who's a player -- you know, those guys who seem to automatically know how to seduce a woman -- and do it as if by magic.
In my quest to learn what these players do, I found that there are certain surprising commonalities shared by them. And if you too adopt these attitudes and practices, then you too will go from zero to hero when it comes to girls.
Before I go on, however, I must warn you that what you're about to read, even though it's proven to work, is highly controversial. So if you're offended by truly raw, politically incorrect straight talk, please hit the "back" button now.
The first thing virtually all players have in common is this fundamental belief: "Women want sex every bit as much as I do." Men who are not players believe the opposite, that women don't like sex and have to be somehow tricked into it. This negative belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that sets them up for failure.
The second belief virtually all successful seducers share is this: "It is up to me to take the lead when it comes to sex." Here too is a big mistake a lot of us regular guys make. Rather than pushing the interaction forward, we feel scared of rejection and instead allow the woman to take the lead. The result? A lot of sexual frustration.
You see, unfortunately women have a tough challenge growing up in our repressed society. If a woman acts on her sexual urges (such as going out and picking up random guys), she risks being labeled a "slut" and shunned by most people.
So instead what a woman must do is let the guy take the lead when it comes to seduction. She then is able to reason to herself that "this guy swept me off my feet" and "I couldn't help myself." That then allows her to stop thinking and just go with her feelings instead.
Now that you have these two pieces of knowledge (i.e., women love sex as much as you do, and they want you to take the lead when it comes to sex), there are two actions you must take.
The first action is to let everything you do and say be something that balances the logical side of the woman's mind with the emotional. So rather than say "let's go to your place to be alone together," you should say, "Unfortunately I don't have a lot of time, but I'd love to swing by your place to see those photos of your trip to Florida."
The first statement rings alarm bells with her that scream, "I'm moving too fast with this guy!" The second soothes her mind because it's a totally innocent reason for you two to be alone together.
(By the way, even if you do have a lot of time, it's good to pretend you don't. This is a technique called a "false time constraint" which sets her mind at ease.)
So again, you want to keep the woman's emotions ENGAGED and her logical mind SOOTHED. Emotions are engaged because she feels so good. Her logical mind is soothed because she's got an innocent explanation for taking you home with her.
The second action taken by master seducers is the concept of "two steps forward, one step back." Women enjoy being teased and don't just want a straight-line progression from kissing to knocking boots.
So, for instance, when you unhook the woman's bra, let go and move way back to a much earlier phase of the make-out session. (Run your fingers through her hair and kiss her, etc.) Then much later, after going through all the phases, move back to where you just were when you unhooked her bra, and then do one more step to escalate it (like slide off the bra straps). Then move way back to a much earlier phase like sniffing her neck.
It's really a simple formula. Two steps forward, one step back.
In conclusion, seducing a woman comes down to four things:
1. The firm belief that she loves sex as much as you do.
2. Willingness to take the lead and be the one responsible for the seduction, which frees her from having to feel like a slut.
3. Keeping her logical mind soothed and her emotions engaged.
4. Teasing her and going slow.
John Alexander, recognized as one of the world's foremost -- and controversial -- dating experts, has written a guide called How to Become an Alpha Male. Learn more about how to seduce a woman by going to http://alphamalesystem.com
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