The Truth About Why Women Reject Men

By John J. Alexander

Think back to the last time someone was desperate to get you to give them something. Maybe it was the pushy electronics store salesman who wouldn't take no for an answer. Or maybe it was your loser friend who doesn't want to go to a movie by himself, so he pesters you to go with him.

How did you react? Not too well I bet.

Psychologists and human behaviorists have conducted numerous studies proving that we hate clingy people trying to leech off us. It's a natural, normal reaction that's a fundamental part of our human nature.

And conversely, one of the greatest things that attracts us is when someone does not need us.

The most groundbreaking discovery I made with women is that they reject men who reek of desperation. When you're needy, it sends out subconscious signals saying "I have low value."

So think back to the times you've been rejected. I bet if you really think about it, you'll find that most of the time you were needy.

In order to attract women, we must always be confident and have an authority about us. Don't apologize, act uncertain or try too hard for their approval.

Your complete confidence that any woman would be lucky to have you must permeate every fiber of your being as you go throughout your day talking to women. Your strong, positive energy must express itself and draw them into your reality. You attract women by simply vibing with women, not from begging like a puppydog.

Get into that high value state of mind and you'll have an aura that draws women to you. It's that easy.

Now that you know the main reason why women reject men, and what to do about it, here's another bombshell for you: stop thinking in terms of you making a woman feel attracted to you. All that does is repel rather than attract her.

What you should do instead is take the desire for a man that she already has and direct it toward you. And you do that simply by demonstrating your attractive qualities that you've already got. Not by trying to trick the woman or scam her.

One mindset is like a magnetic force pulling women to you. The other chases them away.

Think about it from a woman's perspective for a minute. Imagine you meet a man who is exciting and has a lot going on in his life, is a guy who oozes sexuality, and is calm and in control. You're going to feel like you've found the man you've been looking for. He meets the desire you already had.

Now contrast this with a guy who comes up to you being needy and desperate. He struggles to say pick up lines to you. His body language is low status. His clothes look like he's trying too hard to impress you. This guy is wasting your time, and you're going to tell him to get lost.

So think "attractive aura" not "I've-got-to-create-a-good-impression." Remember, you never have to create attraction for you.

This means being a whole new you. While other guys are out there trying to trick women with their "game," you're becoming an irresistible alpha male who attracts women like Casanova.

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John Alexander, recognized as one of the world's foremost dating experts, has written a guide called How to Become an Alpha Male. Learn more about why women reject men, and what you can do about it -- to make sure you become the Alpha Male who's never again troubled by it! -- by going to http://alphamalesystem.com

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How To Make A Woman Trust You Completely

By John Alexander
Author, How to Become an Alpha Male

I'm about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel complete trust for you, and have sex with you... even if it's the very first date.

You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him. Look at it like this:

1. Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!")

2. Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman. He'll have to wait before he gets any!"

However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.

Let's take a typical scenario. Say it's coming up on 11 PM, and you've been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she's attracted to you.

And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because the bottom line is that as long as you've got good body language, you've got a lot going on in your life, and you're witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.

Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you'll know an easy, efficient way to do that.

And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you'll be able to use it with women.

Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon."

The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.

You see, if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology.

So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws. Examples could be:
- "I have an ugly mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it."
- "I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!"
- "I don't always floss my teeth even though I should."

Even if they're fake flaws, it doesn't necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman.

Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well.

This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be breathlessly panting, "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!"

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How to Seduce a Woman Like a Player

By John J. Alexander

There's a small percentage of men who get most of the success with women. We all know somebody who's a player -- you know, those guys who seem to automatically know how to seduce a woman -- and do it as if by magic.

In my quest to learn what these players do, I found that there are certain surprising commonalities shared by them. And if you too adopt these attitudes and practices, then you too will go from zero to hero when it comes to girls.

Before I go on, however, I must warn you that what you're about to read, even though it's proven to work, is highly controversial. So if you're offended by truly raw, politically incorrect straight talk, please hit the "back" button now.

The first thing virtually all players have in common is this fundamental belief: "Women want sex every bit as much as I do." Men who are not players believe the opposite, that women don't like sex and have to be somehow tricked into it. This negative belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that sets them up for failure.

The second belief virtually all successful seducers share is this: "It is up to me to take the lead when it comes to sex." Here too is a big mistake a lot of us regular guys make. Rather than pushing the interaction forward, we feel scared of rejection and instead allow the woman to take the lead. The result? A lot of sexual frustration.

You see, unfortunately women have a tough challenge growing up in our repressed society. If a woman acts on her sexual urges (such as going out and picking up random guys), she risks being labeled a "slut" and shunned by most people.

So instead what a woman must do is let the guy take the lead when it comes to seduction. She then is able to reason to herself that "this guy swept me off my feet" and "I couldn't help myself." That then allows her to stop thinking and just go with her feelings instead.

Now that you have these two pieces of knowledge (i.e., women love sex as much as you do, and they want you to take the lead when it comes to sex), there are two actions you must take.

The first action is to let everything you do and say be something that balances the logical side of the woman's mind with the emotional. So rather than say "let's go to your place to be alone together," you should say, "Unfortunately I don't have a lot of time, but I'd love to swing by your place to see those photos of your trip to Florida."

The first statement rings alarm bells with her that scream, "I'm moving too fast with this guy!" The second soothes her mind because it's a totally innocent reason for you two to be alone together.

(By the way, even if you do have a lot of time, it's good to pretend you don't. This is a technique called a "false time constraint" which sets her mind at ease.)

So again, you want to keep the woman's emotions ENGAGED and her logical mind SOOTHED. Emotions are engaged because she feels so good. Her logical mind is soothed because she's got an innocent explanation for taking you home with her.

The second action taken by master seducers is the concept of "two steps forward, one step back." Women enjoy being teased and don't just want a straight-line progression from kissing to knocking boots.

So, for instance, when you unhook the woman's bra, let go and move way back to a much earlier phase of the make-out session. (Run your fingers through her hair and kiss her, etc.) Then much later, after going through all the phases, move back to where you just were when you unhooked her bra, and then do one more step to escalate it (like slide off the bra straps). Then move way back to a much earlier phase like sniffing her neck.

It's really a simple formula. Two steps forward, one step back.

In conclusion, seducing a woman comes down to four things:

1. The firm belief that she loves sex as much as you do.

2. Willingness to take the lead and be the one responsible for the seduction, which frees her from having to feel like a slut.

3. Keeping her logical mind soothed and her emotions engaged.

4. Teasing her and going slow.

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John Alexander, recognized as one of the world's foremost -- and controversial -- dating experts, has written a guide called How to Become an Alpha Male. Learn more about how to seduce a woman by going to http://alphamalesystem.com

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How to Carry Yourself With the Body Language of an Alpha Male

By John J. Alexander

Watch Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or any other man with high status and you'll notice that they simply move differently than the rest of us. They have an aura about them that they are hot stuff, and because of that, women swoon over them.

You too can develop that aura, in order to increase your attractiveness to women and your dating success.

Have you ever noticed the way your body looks when you've felt like crap? You end up looking down at the ground and folding your arms and other non-alpha male behaviors. But other times, when you had girls all over you, you have great body language.

1) Relax. This is the most important mental state for you to be in.

a) Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying.

b) Breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest. (When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.)

c) Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation--e.g., raising your shoulders, knitting your brows, and fidgeting.

d) Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.

Alpha males, except on the rare occasions that there's a pressing emergency, move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.

e) Relax your eyes and eyelids. Beta males hold their eyelids open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."

f) If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.

2) Feel masculine and powerful. Visualize that you are a masculine man. Do things in your life that make you feel manly, like lifting weights and working out with a punching bag. Take care of your health.

3) Realize that you are a man of high value. Focus on your qualities and ignore your deficiencies. Be as arrogant as you want in order to develop massive confidence. Think thoughts such as, "I am the greatest" and "People are lucky to have me in their lives." Treat people as if they are already in awe of you before they have even met you.

4) Feel comfortable in your own skin. An alpha male is happy with or without any particular woman, since he views women as sources of fun in his life--no more and no less. Take the mindset that of course women want you, but it's no big deal either way.

5) Spread out your body. Take up space with your arms, legs, and chest. Keep your neck straight with your back so that your head is held high. (Something that helped me get used to keeping my neck straight was removing the pillow from my bed. After all, it's a major challenge to have optimal posture when your neck is bent for 8 hours every night.)

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Body Language

By John Alexander
Author, How to Become an Alpha Male

An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is non-verbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state. Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing their body language.

So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally.

Body language consists of the following:

* Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow.

* The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't be afraid to take up space.

* Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or strain your voice.

* Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow.

* Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up like a nervous person.

I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women.

You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake.

I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language. For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table.

The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on my own couch. It was as if I owned the coffee shop.

The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk.

(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you. This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.)

The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night. (We finally had sex in the morning.)

The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because of my body language.

Now, of course body language isn't enough. You also must have an internal alpha male mindset that's consistent with your body language.

But make no mistake about it... if your body language conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat?

Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed. So your mindset also follows the body language that you adopt.

So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language. Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself.

And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself... with the woman.

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John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male, a seduction success system for men that will have you displaying body language that attracts women like a magnet.

How to Get a Girl to Like You

By John Alexander
Author, How to Become an Alpha Male

We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face.

She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?

While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life.

Ironically, what this means is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.

That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never come from a position of neediness.

So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:

1. Nonchalance.

2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that's awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)

The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a challenge for her.

In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make friends with.)

Also date as many women as you can... don't restrict yourself to dating only "that one special girl."

You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem.

Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon... and it's much more powerful in women than men.

Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action.

By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to have powerful feelings for her.

Here's the key though... you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as she is.

If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and, ironically, makes her lose attraction to you.

So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. That way you won't become needy.

So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible... those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you.

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